Sauced on the Humble-Juice…

I’m sauced on humble-juice right now because I am realizing it is annoyingly true: if we don’t have it yet we aren’t ready for it. I fought this truth to the DEATH for about 10 years. 5 years ago I thought I was absolutely ready-no, overdue- for the success and accomplishments I have now and let me tell you: I was not ready.

Even one year ago I was not ready, because I didn’t know how to be kind to myself through learning curves and growth edges so guess what- we just didn’t round any corners or push any edges.

I would either berate myself to the point of catatonia for not knowing something that I’d never needed to know before, or gaslight myself into believing that my mediocrity was totally fine. Guess what- it wasn’t fine. And I don’t mean to the world (my mediocrity is most people’s A++ and that’s on being the first born daughter) but to ME! I don’t like settling for less than what I see possible, but I didn’t yet know how to insist on refining and refining and refining without turning into a maniacal self-abuser.

Highly Valuable now and also available for upgrades is my mantra in 2025. Steal it from me if it hits.

So much of “not being ready” has to do with the internal habits and behaviors of how we are holding and treating ourselves. I wasn’t ready for more business because I was straight up nasty to myself for absolutely no reason and that is a big drain on energy and resilience. 10 year ago I wasn’t ready for the unbelievable marriage partnership I have now because I didn’t know how to hold myself in kindness while also being present with another’s authentic experience (I barely knew it when we got together, just enough for that baptism-by-fire to not destroy me completely).

I wasn’t ready to get sober even a day sooner than I did, because I still saw more value in the drink than in the life without it.

When we’re not ready we’re not ready. And we slow things down by trying to fight timing.

If you could focus on mastering one Universal Law that would unlock miracles in your daily experience, it would be understanding and accepting the law of divine timing.

I kind of wanted to gag writing that because it’s been co-opted in my brain by all the trust fund yogis who use #divinetiming to explain how they can afford forever vacation. But what I’m talking about is more like gravity: a law of operation that just is. There is a dimension of timing that is beyond our ability to artificially manipulate. BUT the irony and magic is that when we accept that, it’s like the flow all of a sudden starts working in our favor. Or, perhaps, we drop into a wiser flow than what our mechanical brains have been projecting.

I quit drinking by telling myself that I didn’t need to quit. I’d been fighting my addiction for years, feeding energy to an internal battle that I was definitely going to lose. Finally one day I just thought “fuck it. no more fighting. drink as much as you want”. It was probably a month later that my sobriety finally stuck.

I wasn’t ready until I was ready, and every day I spent fighting that was a day where I stacked all of my energy into conflict rather than creation. The minute I let it go, my Energy could flow in alignment with Time and suddenly a new reality emerged.

In my senior year of college I got passed over for a role (I was an actor and a director in my past life, did you know?) that the whole department said I had in the bag, with a director I was sure was going to mobilize my career after graduation. It was devastating AND embarrassing because everyone was watching. Because of that blow, I had a few unexpected weeks of free time and so I volunteered to help out with a no-budget student project that my friends were messing around with. That project turned into an international sensation that employed me for 10 years and that I STILL collect royalty money from. I got recognized in a jewelry shop just a couple months ago from that project.

What the fuck do I know about best timing, right path?

In reclaiming our magical, powerful selves (and I’m talking the science of magic, not the woo-woo of it) we start by understanding the laws and mechanics: what are the moving parts of this mystery and how do I begin working with them rather than against them?

Most people collect a few accidental miracles in life and we go “Wow that’s crazy! Wish I could make that happen again!” and then off we stroll into our society of perpetual forgetting. But those accidents come through to try to show us a process that then we can learn to replicate. It is worth the time and practice it takes to learn to replicate miracles.

So under the mechanics of Divine Timing we can assess that 1) if it isn’t here yet, we aren’t ready 2) if we aren’t ready, it is not the right time.

We don’t get ready by being mad that we aren’t ready, and we don’t drop into right timing by trying to force right timing.

If I am not ready, what do I need to do to prepare?

If I’m forcing time, what do I need to do to support my surrender?

In the example of my drinking, I needed to prepare for sobriety by being nicer to myself (because oh man, does the absence of our drug of choice reveal all our gnarliest bits) and incidentally being nicer to myself by saying “hey, I’m not going to bully you into sobriety anymore, drink as much as you want” was my act of surrender.

In the example of my artistic redirect, I needed to prepare for success by moving through disappointment and rejection straight into next action (volunteering for another project), and in the act of moving on to that other “small” project I surrendered the part of me that thought I could predict what projects would lead to success and which ones wouldn’t.

If it’s not here it’s not time, but lucky for you we can learn the laws of time and work with it.

Three Questions to lock this in:

• Recall one “miracle” or moment of flow in your life, where something appeared or resolved, as if by magic.

• What was one thing you were doing (maybe unknowingly) that was preparing you?

• What was one thing you were doing that was an act of surrender?

Xo,

Julia

PS: we’re running some lab experiments on getting right with time so that we can accelerate our creations… check out the Quantum Leap Academy.